How I’m becoming a more confident person.

It’s the most amazing feeling when we can finally feel confident about ourselves.

It’s the better part of what we strive for to make life just a little bit easier for us.

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I decided to be more nurturing towards me. I made a sound decision to be my best friend, and I know that a good best friend does not make you feel bad about yourself.

There were times when I would look in the mirror and disapprove of what I was looking at.

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At some point in my life, I figured out that it was a pattern and that a pattern can be broken.

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You will notice that I will give no description of what exactly I was disapproving of, those are not what I want to focus on. I want to focus on the careful way in which I choose my words so that we can all read this without our triggers rising towards the surface.

I had to become curious curiosity is good when you realise that your negative mind can be seen as an entirely different entity- just within your brain.

This entity could be a colleague, a bully back in college, secondary school maybe. But again, a person that is fighting for control inside your vessel and inside your mind – and you keep having to show up to the lousy intervention that you don’t need.

It was important for me to note that I cant exactly hate this entity, this wasn’t the way to coexist with a well drained bully. So I needed to chuckle to myself and be willing to learn, be willing to be curious.

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I had to meet her where she was, I had to ask her: how about we do something differently today? Introducing a new plan, stirring up the ‘natural’ flow of things. Daring to take the first step.

I couldn’t strive for perfection here, because the most beautiful things aren’t perfect. So when she says the same thing to me as she did yesterday, I don’t cower and allow my heart to believe and agree with her. Instead I whisper in my own mind… back to her, I told her that she is the most beautiful woman in this room. (I was in my room, and nobody was inside the room with me)

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Now I had to make a promise to myself, that I will always do this for her. That I will always counteract her words with mine, that I will always love her, even when she speaks to me in that way.

Here’s to becoming one with her, so that we can sing the same tune, the same lyric. Creating a shift and a merging of two separate minds to the good of all who is around me, and to the good of those I come in contact with.

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So how am I becoming a more confident person? By being curious about the different ways I could work with my best friend.

Published by healinghands231

She is a witch, a writer, a fiancée and a queen at healing the masses within. A 24 year old woman, based in the UK, she finds peace in the tarot, peace in the oracle. She breathes humility and a passion to help bring the art of your mind to life in a snap. Bring to her your work, create by night by day and she will be there to help you pursue like a coin displayed on a tray.

2 thoughts on “How I’m becoming a more confident person.

  1. OmG that was fun to read !! And interesting !! The way you describe being different and being the same. I am terrible trying to put it in words, but what a unique writing style. It’s like lighting up the dark and in a brilliant way.


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